Saturday, February 11, 2017

"Changes in the Wind"

    As many of you know our Agriculture Project with Planting for a Harvest has finished, they realized the harvest wasn't sufficent to cover the expenses. In a way this was sad for us, since we had just started to really build relationships with many of the families up there and were getting to teach their kids, and have Bible study with new believers....

So we have been spending time fasting and praying seeking the Lord as to "Whats Next".  You can pray with us regarding this, we have a few ideas of what we would like to do, but definatly want to only do God's plan!

 We are still committed to discipling our New Christian families. A couple weeks ago we went up, to spend time teaching them, which was an adventure. :) we had Bible study and it got late, so they insisted we spend the night, so they wouldnt have to worry about us driving late.,( plus it is a bit of a moto drive into where they live, had to leave the pickup out at the main road 
We will spend one more weekend with them before we return to US. We are trying to find a "home church or someone we can Plug them into in their area, hopefully before we leave.

  We have also been using some of this time to concentrate on learning the language. Its so necessary to really be a part of the community here. So your not treated as an outsider, we feel upon our return, before we let ourselves get to "busy" we need to focus on language, concentrated time possibly  for about 3 months spending time with a tutor, to help us "get it faster.".... especially with the reading and writing portion..

Another matter for prayer is,  a different place to live that has a "shop/out building.. for welding, training guys.  and helping other missionaries with some of their projects.
we have been keeping an eye out for something like this, thats affordable. For example we found one place the that may work, BUT it comes with dogs? I guess they are the absentee owners dogs.... we are praying if this is the place or not that God wants us to rent, will see what happens by the time we return.

   We have been kept busy helping other missionaries here with their ministries.
One is a Swiss couple David and Sara, they have been here full time for 3 years . They did what we did, came part time for several years helping with a kids ministry, before they could commit full time, Currently they have a kids ministry in their home, teaching english several times a day, and David goes out to villages, with goal of putting in water wells and toilets, to help get the people fresh drinking water and sanitation. Using this as a platform to get the chance to spread the gospel. He has been renting a well rig, but now is currently looking to get his own rig, so he has been "picking Stans brain", about well rigs. they have looked at a few here to see what options are available.

Our church also keeps us busy, helping out with projects such as Stan just built a locking cover for the sound board equipment and also moving chairs, furniture etc. since we have the only pickup in the church....


Our Pastor Ivor and his wife Carol are leaving us after serving here for seven years. We had a special church service honoring them. 

ON the last Friday of the month we have our monthly Ladies Fellowship time, I shared for January's fellowship and am planning February to be on Monday the 20th, since we will be flying out Tuesday the 21st.
 Using the VALENTINE them of "Love" Gods love what that looks like.
  A lady in our church "Sandy" is a nurse Practitioner and goes to the Prison to hold medical clinics, also she has a local Christian dentist that volunteers his services to go do dental clinics and she assists him, she was seeing many health issues due to not getting enough nutrition in their diet, so she helped organize and get funding to get an organic garden started, she hired a man that has an education in Agriculture to hold classes for the prisoners to teach them organic gardening methods etc. and they now have several gardens where they grow several different types of "cabbage, and "greens", also white radishes. It has proved to be successful, in helping improve their health and they seem to enjoy getting outside to work in the garden. FYI Prison here is not like the US! She also funded getting a "ceiling in their cells, to help the heat factor, its just tin rooms and the heat inside is "dreadful" she said. She has such a compassionate heart for these people who are stuck in there. Obviously some deserve it, but some just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. and there isn't any real "justice system". If you have money or a family that cares you may get a court hearing and or get out, if you don't your " stuck" in there until they decide, 

  The most disturbing is there is many small children, the ladies who are in prison can have there children up to age 5, then they have to send them to a relative or organization. they just hang out in the cells with their moms. Can't imagine, growing up in a prison.. these little ones have nothing, there just innocent victims. Most of the women are in due to drugs? I really don't know.
  Because she does so much to help the prisoners their she is able to hold Bible classes, she said there is approx. 60 people attending now!
She invited us to visit the prison last month with her, she told the Director we were interested in the garden project so we could come in, They don't allow anyone to come in less they agree you have a reason to be there. He allowed us to visit and talked to us about possibly helping with a project there. This maybe something we would do in the future, it would get us in to teach the guys there and possibly open doors for ministry. Stan has been helping Hooley, with some projects he is working on for the "garden" project. building a relationship with him, for possible future ministry opportunities.

     On January 13th we took Saruon back to Thailand to re-evaluate his health problems, since nothing really changed after the last time we took him, the prescribed creams didn't help his rash ...  so this time he saw 3 different doctors starting with the originally skin specialists who changed his medication/cream for his rash-psoriasis, ( works good this time!) they also did a lot of bloodwork, urine test etc. and  X-rays, we got the results back, and there was some disturbing diagnoses , suggestions he followup with a GI doctor, also felt like the rash is from possible arsenic/copper poisoning.  We found a Doctor here in Siem Reap originally from the UK, who has looked at all his test results and will see him this week to followup.

 We met a Japanese lady out spreading the gospel thru handing out pamphlets and dvd's about the gospel. she invited us to dinner, to meet their team. and learn what all they are doing,
Last night we had a very nice time, eating and worshipping together, singing many old hymns from home:) some sang in khmer, japanese and english!!


When our "Job" stopped end of December we wondered what we would do, should we change our tickets to come home early? But we have been kept so busy!!! everyday is full with meeting people or helping someone!!! we have to be careful not to double-book! It happened! Time has flown by! 

A few random photos for you:)

Beginning of January we "houses sat for " Odems " traditions at their home when the Khmer kids have a birthday they all get treated with the baby duck egg... So Stan tried it with them...

Lunch of grilled chicken, along the way between Battambang & siem reap,,, like her hat😊




Stan had checkup on his hand, Dr was pleased with new bone growth, ( still can see where the saw took a "bite" out of his knuckle! 
This week we are visiting family in Battembang, looking around at possible places in case the Lord should lead us this direction, then back to Siem Reap to finish up any unfinished business, visiting farm families and packing. Pray we use our last bit of time wisely! 
We are looking forward to seeing you all very soon!! Hopefully your lakes will have gone down by then😊🏊🏼 looks a bit cold still for swimming ! 
Pray for our trip back its a long trip, a few stops and long layovers😟.. Thank you, all our prayer partners, and home team ! We couldn't be here without all of you supporting us in friendship, prayers and finances Thank you so much!!! 



Monday, January 2, 2017

Tony and Socheata's Wedding



Khmer Christian Wedding
Tony & Socheata 
Dec 16th & 17th 2016



   Phally and Chris's niece Socheata , was planning her wedding for Dec. 16th and 17th.
A few months ago, she and her parents came to us and asked if we would mind being Mom and Dad to the groom ( Tony), if his parents could not attend, the wedding  they are from Canada, and his father is still recovering from having 4 strokes last year, so it was a bit iffy, if they would be able to attend, God is good and He made a way for Tony's father to attend the wedding with finances and his health seemed to stabilize! but his wife, who suffers with MS was concerned about the heat, so she wasn't able to attend.. Hence I was asked if I would still be willing to be the MOM for Tony in the wedding ceremonies. For some reason, they have to have 2 people to keep things balanced for the ceremonies! 
   Timing was great, because I was able to help with Vondy big Christmas Celebration on the 11th and then stay for the week to help get ready for the wedding. It was a very busy week, with lots of cooking to help with between the meal at Vondy's and then all the family and friends that had come to stay for the wedding. On thursday the Wedding Company came and set up the big tent in front of the house  and decorated the main room in the brides parents house. but first they had to empty the furniture and things out. The first 3 ceremonies on Friday would be held there at the home. So the wedding caters fixed food for everyone on Thursday eve. all 3 meals on Friday and then breakfast and lunch on Saturday. Saturday the ceremonies would be at the church, " Cambodia Christian Church, where the brides Grandpa has been the Pastor until this year, now his Son Yut is taking over the Pastor role. the big reception was held at a hotel. Saturday eve.
  Vondy gave me one of her Traditional Khmer outfits, to wear at the wedding then to keep for a souvenir:). Then Lada, ( phally sister and mother of the bride) and her other sister Rajana, decided I needed a different outfit for each ceremony, So Rajana went and got 3 of her outfits for me try on. I kinda felt like a doll being dressed up! The next day a girl came to adjust the fit of all the outfits. 
   As tradition dictates, weddings start at 7am so everyone has to be made up and ready by then, so 4am we ( all the girls and "mothers" in the wedding)  were up and in one of the bedrooms in the house where there was 3 girls doing makeup and 2 guys doing hair for everyone. I kinda suggested I could do my own, but was told no, they will do for you :) It was an experience :) I had no idea what I looked like until I went back to the room I was staying in, and hardly recognized myself!
me with the flower girl
There were 3 ceremonies on Friday:
1st the "Fruit Walk,"
Breakfast :
2nd "Hair Cutting ceremony "
( Pretend to cut the hair!)
Lunch
rest time
3rd ceremony was "Honoring/Thanking the Parents"
then was dinner and dancing and karaoke for those who wanted to have fun!
Most of the guests attending Friday was family and close friends


On the left is the brides younger sister & on the right is her cousin






The "Fruit Walk" is the Groom and family coming bearing fruits and pastries, "gifts" representing his dowry to come present to the bride and her family. Girls sing 2 songs and khmer dance telling the story of this.

breakfast after the "Fruit Walk"










left to right, Stan, grooms cousin, grooms father, me, Tony the groom, his sister, her husband , Phally and Chris




start of the Hair cutting ceremony 
Hair Cutting Ceremony: This is symbolic of preparing the bride and groom for a new life together as husband and wife. There is song and dance and a comedy act, telling the stories of the beauty of the bride, and others telling story of working together to begin life as husband and wife .
  Each of the Relatives from parents then grandparents to Aunts and Uncles take a turn symbolically cutting hair, sprinkling perfume , shower blessings on the couple.
announcer of the hair cutting ceremony







Grandma and Grandpa Hair Cutting Ceremony ( all the relatives get to take a turn)

Posed photos after "Hair Cutting Ceremony" 



The last Ceremony on Friday afternoon was the "Honoring the Parents" ceremony: Its where the Bride and groom hold umbrellas over the parents heads, while the Pastor talks about all the Parents have done for them since they were born, and now its the bride and grooms turn to care for the parents, a "reversing of roles" The Pastor talks a lot about the responsibilities involved. 
( I think this ceremony should be included in our weddings!) 












On Saturday we enjoyed and early breakfast of Baba, then off to the church for the Church service ceremony and a change of clothes for the bride and groom and the Hand Tying Ceremony
In the Church service the Pastor shared from scripture and they shared communion, unity candle, rings exchange etc. much like our western ceremonies. followed by a word from the father of the bride and Father of the groom, & grandfather then prayer over the new couple.





 


flower girl "taking a selfie?"


Then the " Hand Tying Ceremony was where the parents and relatives, tie strings of blessings, on the bride and grooms left and right wrists. symbolizing, wishing of prosperity, success, good health, and long lasting love. then a prayer of blessing over them 

Beginning of Hand Tying Ceremony



Brides Parents the string onto wrists and sprinkle with rose water



Our turn ( I had to do it with the Grooms father then with Stan.)


After this was over everyone came back to the Brides parents home to enjoy lunch together, A rest time and then prepare for the Big reception that evening! 



Bride & bridesmaids ( changed outfits 3 times!)

coming into Reception hall


Introducing the Bride & Groom during the Reception


 
Maru, me, Sokry